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Why Emotional Safety Matters in Therapy with a Licensed Therapist in Lafayette for Deeper, Lasting Change
Most people don’t come to therapy because they lack insight. They usually already know something feels off. Relationships become strained. Anxiety stays stuck in the body. Conversations feel heavier than they should. Some people live in constant emotional...
Feeling Stuck or Numb? How Anxiety Depression Counseling in Indianapolis Helps You Reconnect and Move Forward
There’s a quiet kind of struggle people don’t always name right away. Not intense panic. Not even obvious sadness. Just a flatness, like you’re going through the motions without really being in them. I hear this often from people looking for anxiety and depression...
How Family of Origin Counseling Indianapolis Helps Couples Understand Each Other Better
Relationships rarely start with a clean slate. Long before two people meet, each has already learned how to handle anger, silence, affection, disappointment, and conflict. Most of those lessons came from home, sometimes clearly, sometimes quietly in the...
When life gives you lemons…
It recently came to me that the purpose of therapy is to help a person who is stuck in one of the protective states of the nervous system (NS) get unstuck. These two protective states are fight/flight (F/F) and shut down/collapse/frozen (SD). When a person is stuck in...
Mmmm….this cheesecake is so good.
The idea of living in the moment or living in the present, seems to have taken on greater emphasis in recent years. And for good reason. After all, the thought goes that it's better to be appreciating, thankful for, and noticing what is going on in the present moment,...
With
Are you aware of the place in you where you say it is uncomfortable to allow anyone else to be? Are you aware of the guards and protectors that kick in if someone or you get close to this place? Are you open to the help, support, comfort, and strength you could...
Why am I always the bad, guilty one?
When negative, traumatic, or bad things happen, have you ever wondered why you blame yourself or are the one who takes responsibility for the thing that happened? If you have a disagreement or conflict with someone, are you quick to think it's your fault? If so, have...
Emotionally hijacked
Recently, I had a breakthrough in my understanding of what we need and what helps when we get emotionally hijacked. It was 3:10 as I drove to the gym, knowing my wife and I were going to hang out with friends at 4:00. I wanted to work out for 30 minutes which would...
Nature vs. Nurture
Most people are familiar with this psychological concept. Is who we are a result of our temperament and makeup or of the environment we grew up in. Starting in my 20s, I placed the emphasis on the latter, largely because I had a strong internal sense that my...