It recently came to me that the purpose of therapy is to help a person who is stuck in one of the protective states of the nervous system (NS) get unstuck. These two protective states are fight/flight (F/F) and shut down/collapse/frozen (SD). When a person is stuck in...

The idea of living in the moment or living in the present, seems to have taken on greater emphasis in recent years. And for good reason. After all, the thought goes that it's better to be appreciating, thankful for, and noticing what is going on in the present moment,...

Are you aware of the place in you where you say it is uncomfortable to allow anyone else to be? Are you aware of the guards and protectors that kick in if someone or you get close to this place? Are you open to the help, support, comfort, and strength you could...

When negative, traumatic, or bad things happen, have you ever wondered why you blame yourself or are the one who takes responsibility for the thing that happened? If you have a disagreement or conflict with someone, are you quick to think it's your fault? If so, have...

Recently, I had a breakthrough in my understanding of what we need and what helps when we get emotionally hijacked. It was 3:10 as I drove to the gym, knowing my wife and I were going to hang out with friends at 4:00. I wanted to work out for 30 minutes which would...

Most people are familiar with this psychological concept. Is who we are a result of our temperament and makeup or of the environment we grew up in. Starting in my 20s, I placed the emphasis on the latter, largely because I had a strong internal sense that my...